How to integrate the Process of Ho’oponopono with Reiki

To integrate the process of Ho’oponopono with Reiki is easier than you might think. But first, we have to understand what Ho’oponopono is, where it comes from and what it actually does.

What is Ho’oponopono?

Ho’oponopono is a Hawaiian cleansing prayer where we ask for forgiveness (repentance) to release blocked and/or negative energy to let the higher energy, the divinity, take over and do its work. Read more on Wikipedia.

Rainbow Plumeria

This is a very simplified version of an explanation for this amazing method. Ho’oponopono translated, simply means, correction of any wrongdoing there is. However, where is it coming from and what is the history of this Hawaiian prayer?

A Short History of Ho’oponopono

In the Hawaiian tradition, there are two forms of Ho’oponopono

  • Traditional Ho’oponopono
  • Self-Identity Ho’oponopono

Traditional Ho’oponopono is done within a community or family setting. Wherever there is a problem, an issue, the whole family/community comes together, grouping themselves in a circle.

One member will have the role to be the facilitator making sure that every party, been involved in the problem, will have its say.

Other members will reply and so forth. This will go on until the issue is no longer present and everyone involved in the situation has received and is given Forgiveness.

Traditional Ho’oponopono

This form of seeking penance is a secret and a sacred event and is in practice for a thousand years. Although, over the centuries, due to the invasion of missionaries, the form in how Ho’oponopono is conducted today already has been changed.

Nevertheless, it is still in practice to this day.

Self-Identity Ho’oponopono bypasses the need of a group setting or the need of any other person being in the same room.

Morrnah Simeona, a kahuna lapa’au (healer) and being made a “Hawaiian living treasure” in 1983 has developed, in 1976, the newer form of this ancient Hawaiian Forgiveness ritual which she named Self-Identity Ho’oponopono.

Morrnah Simeona

In her view, it wasn’t longer necessary to have these huge gatherings all the time, since everything a person experience in its lifetime, good or bad, is “only” coming from within the person.

In other words, what each one of us experiences in the “outside world”, nothing more or less, is going on in the person’s “inside world”.

Everything we do experience is a reflection of what is going on inside of us and therefore we are, and only we, are responsible and no one else.

You really can say that everything which is happening outside from us is only a mirror, showing us what is going on withing ourselves.

This is certainly hard to swallow at first, but when you have, at one point, understood the concept it only makes sense and you understand that when YOU do the work for yourself and, due to the work, you will change; everything else in time as well does change.

Being responsible is not new, but with Ho’oponopono, it certainly becomes more meaning that there is no outside world, but only the reflection of what is going on inside of us.

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The 4 Phrases of Ho’oponopono

In Self-Identity Ho’oponopono the person works with 4 phrases which are being said as a mantra as often as the person feels like it should be repeated, there is never a limit.

Here are the 4 phrases

  • I am Sorry
  • Please, Forgive Me
  • Thank You
  • I Love You

I am Sorry mean that we are aware of what is happening and what is going on and why we have this experience in our life.

Please, Forgive Me mean that we are taking full responsibility what is going on and that we ask for repentance for the actions we have done. These actions are not what we have done to another person, or said, it also means what we have thought and how we feel about a situation, person and about ourselves.

Thank You mean that we are thankful for the awareness of a specific situation. That we are thankful for the (life) lesson we have received, thankful for, finally, letting go of old patterns, shame, anger etc.

I Love You mean that we love ourselves unconditionally, that we love our divine existence and so forth.

The 4 Cleansing Phrases

As you can see these 4 simple phrases can and will do lots of changes in your life and therefore will bring changes in your “outer” experiences as well. You can’t do anything wrong and even, though, I wrote about awareness of a situation etc.; even this is not important that you really 100% understand the concept.

The important part is that you are doing it and, if you feel silly in doing it, well, just keep doing it. That’s all there is to it. 🙂

How can Ho’oponopono be used in a Reiki Session?

When you read this article you already have understood that you can’t blame anything outside of you when things are going wrong of some sort, because it is a part of you and so is the solution.

In Ho’oponopono there is a saying that if you experience the illness of a person, family, friend or a stranger, there is something inside of you who needs also healing otherwise you wouldn’t be confronted with it in your experience.

To bring this situation in your Reiki practice, or any other healing form you are using, it means that every client you will have with their healing concerns, that there is also a part inside of you who also need to be healed.

In the end, when you heal the issue, it will show in the other person too.

Please read this amazing story of the Hawaiian psychologist Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, to understand the concept.

Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len

He performed this method to the psychiatric ward of the criminally insane. He also worked closely together with Morrnah Simeona until her death in 1992 and kept giving courses in her taught Self-Identity Ho’oponopono until he retired a few years ago.

When you have i.e. a client coming to you battling tension headaches, you do your Reiki performance as you always do, but quietly saying the 4 Phrases over and over again, healing also the part of the situation inside of yourself.

It is fantastic what can occur, sometimes in the form of a miracle, sometimes it will take a while, there is never a real-time frame to be set.

I encourage every practitioner to try it out and experience for yourself what can happen, and what can change.


I am a Reiki Master/Teacher and practicing Reiki for the last 22 years. I only came along Ho’oponopono 2 years ago and I never looked back.

During my Reiki practice, I had clients, which I had for years, asking me if I did something different this time. Well, the only thing I did was to use Ho’oponopono.

One case stood out of a female client who had a total hysterectomy due to cancer and after radiation treatments felt still not better, the pain in this area even had worsened.

I performed Reiki and included Ho’oponopono quietly saying the 4 phrases over and over again during the whole session.

She felt much calmer after the session has ended and after 5 more Reiki sessions, being followed upon, she finally told me that there was no more pain and even the lymphatic swelling of one of her legs has gone away, although, according to her doctor, it would be a constant situation after the kind of surgery and radiation treatment she had received.

You, now, can see how Ho’oponopono can be of help to you to enhance your Reiki treatment but most of all to help yourself.

Reiki Hands Position

Please, do understand that Ho’oponopono is a lifestyle something of a constant which does never stop.

We need to clean ourselves as long as we live, therefore, Ho’oponopono never stops. When you are aware of this fact, you will have Ho’oponopono integrated as a part of your daily routine like taking a shower or brushing your teeth.

I do and I don’t even have to think about it anymore, I just do it.

Please feel free to leave a comment below


Author: Sylvia Kiliwia

Sylvia Mann has worked as a Geriatric Nurse and as a Nursing Instructor for many years. However, her passion also lies in holistic healing and seeking complementary healing modalities such as Reiki, Body Talk, EFT just to name a few. Spiritual topics about psychic abilities, the supernatural and more are also of interest to her. To be able to "heal yourself" is always the main focus to Sylvia when she writes an article to inform her readers.

42 thoughts on “How to integrate the Process of Ho’oponopono with Reiki”

  1. Wonderful combination, Sylvia, and very powerful. Reiki – the beautiful, soft energy in us and all around us that “only” needs to be directed by a good and clear intention, and received with appreciation to heal. And Ho’oponopono the Healing-Prayer, the prayer on four pillars of life also directed by the intention of the heart that desires to purify itself!
    I often combine those methods too. There is always something to forgive, the most we have to forgive ourselves. I’m very grateful I have found your beautiful article, Sylvia! It gave me a nice boost to the evening. Thank you!
    Keep up your awesome healing work! This world needs a lot of healing!
    Sending Love and Light!
    Aloha, Jenna

    1. Thank you, Jenna, for taking the time and leaving a comment.
      Yes, it is so very true that the world needs so much healing and everything each one of us can do to lower the suffering and raise the healing vibration, to bring healing and peace, is certainly more than we can actually imagine.
      Thank you for your confirmation on the matter I do appreciate it.

  2. Good afternoon Sylvia,

    There you have proof again. In old times people solved problems the good way, no need to take modern medicine for stressful situations. I must say I love the Traditional Ho oponopono system as all people participate. It is a really good group cleaning.
    There is a Spanish saying: Talking people will understand each other. Just look at the world today, of this type of talking there is far too little.
    Beautiful that this meeting is not stopped before there is forgiveness for everything and everybody.
    Keeping grudges will only cause health issues like stomach ulcers.
    I agree that our inside is visible on the outside, our life is a reflection. I understand we can work on our self but I also like this get-together concept.
    Repeating those 4 simple phrases for a longer time will create new neuron pathways and your brain will accept this to be true.
    So simple but so powerful.

    Regards, Taetske

    1. Hi, Taetske,
      Thank you for leaving a comment on the matter which is so appreciated.
      Yes, I too can see that the group setting is a powerful one and certainly helps everyone who is involved to resolve an issue. This, however, further expects that everyone is really on board in doing it and unfortunately this is not always the case.

      Traditional Ho’oponopono was used to help the whole community, the village to find peace and forgiveness when something started to disturb the peaceful life together.

      In our day and age you barely can get everyone to sit at the table anymore and have a meal together due to different commitments and of course, the time issue we all have one way or another.

      I do believe that Morrnah Simeona probably was aware of this situation to become a bigger and bigger issue for mankind and therefore was lead by her spiritual guidance to create the Self-Identity Ho’oponopono. If we can’t do it, whatever the reason, by coming together as a group we still have the opportunity to work on ourselves helping not just us to cleanse but everything which is a part of the issue, situation, event and so forth.

      Ho’oponopono is simple, very simple to do but never underestimate its power and the results you can and will experience.


  3. Hi Sylvia,

    Reading your informative article, I can see how the traditional group meetings resolve issues within the community effectively. By naming the problem and hearing all relevant opinions, the facilitator can resolve the conflict by mutual consent. The principle of this process still lives on in modern mediation practice.

    I am not so sure about the self-identity process. Repeating a mantra over and over again doesn’t make the issue go away. It just seems to enable the person to live with it in peace.

    While I can see the healing and conflict-resolving potential in the traditional method, the self-identity practice doesn’t seem to carry on the same principles of conflict solving. In my opinion, issues within a society cannot be overcome by chanting mantras to yourself, however well intended they might be.

    Although I don’t agree with some of your opinions, I did enjoy reading the article.

    1. Hi, Martin, thank you for your comment and opinion on the matter.

      We have to understand something very important, which is the fact that nothing is and will be ever set in stone, meaning, energy is always evolving if we believe in it or not.

      If our ancestors would never have tried anything new or have tried to develop something new we would have never reached where we are now. I am only saying this without any filters if where we are right now is good or bad.

      The same goes for anything else and even though the traditional Ho’oponopono practice can and will still be performed of today, the new version, the self-identity Ho’oponopono, does the same and also delivers results.

      Without any “bragging” since I am using it on a daily basis for the last 2 years, I can confirm that I not only have achieved more inner peace for myself, but because of it I have also received results in my daily activities like in personal relationships or professional.

      The world outside of us is really a mirror of what is going on inside of us and even though we might not agree with it, yet, we  might understand it at a later point in time.

      My article is only a small taste and should be seen as a starter to start something knew and to change one-selves life etc. 

      However, to get deeper into this practice there are courses to attend to learn the deeper meaning and principles of Ho’oponopono which will certainly make everything more clearer to be understood.

      Wishing all the best


  4. Ho’oponopono is very interesting. It’s new to me.
    I think it’s something that we here could really benefit from.
    I would like to talk to my therapist about it.
    It’s a great way of healing yourself from the inside.
    I think it’s so important to live by these four phrases.
    Being aware of something by saying you’re sorry is a good start for realization and at the same time you’re asking for forgiveness.
    But thank you and I love you are the two best phrases that any person should be saying consistently each and every day.
    Shouldn’t gratitude included as well?

    1. Hi, Rob thank you for leaving a comment, appreciated.

      Saying these 4 phrases is easy to do and will become second nature very quickly, I should know I am doing it for 2 years straight.

      Regarding Gratitude, you are actually doing it by saying “Thank You” which shows gratitude and appreciation together. Words have their own vibration to begin with and thank you means always thank you and by that it doesn’t even change when you saying this word by fully meaning it or, just because it is “required” or, you even couldn’t care less.

      All the best


  5. I am so excited to come across your article.  I heard about this practice a few months ago after diving into practices and practitioners of “The Secret” and Joe Vitale mentioned it in one of his pod trainings.  I used it afterwards and I feel I also saw some positive effects!  One question I hope you can answer that I have had on my mind.  When you are doing the Reiki and saying the 4 phrases, are you thinking of anything in particular?  Are you thinking about your patient’s pain and wishing it away?  I’ve always wondered, when I’m using this to clear relationship issues, or other problems, should I be thinking about details of the problem or have my mind completely cleared?   Thank you again for such a clear explanation of the practice of Ho’oponopono.  I mostly heard it on a broadcast, then googled it briefly, but your article is the most concise I’ve read and really explains it well.

    1. Thank you, Stacey for your lovely comment and your question.

      Yes, Joe Vitale did seminars with Dr. Hew Lin and also wrote a book about the practice of Ho’oponopono with him called “Zero Limits” which I really recommend to anyone who likes to know more.

      To your question, I will just say the 4 phrases and won’t think of any particular issue or region of the client’s body. The Reiki energy is self-intelligent and knows what to do and so are these 4 phrases. Just move along by saying them or thinking it.

      All the best


  6. Although self-Identity Ho’oponopono is great, nothing beats the old way of sitting as a family and talking through your problems and gripes and then fixing up issues and misunderstandings as a group. I would think that this practice would help a family to grow closer and remain close, especially in this day and age when we are all so disconnected.

    On the other hand, it is great to be able to heal oneself of the negativity that is surrounding us. Those four simple phrases should be practised by all towards oneself and towards others and the world will definitely be a better place to live in.

    I went for reiki sessions a few years ago and she taught me hand signals to do. Is the use of hand signals still practised?

    1. Thank you Michel for your comment and question on the matter.

      I know what you are saying about the “old” way of practicing Ho’oponopono in a group setting rather doing it all by yourself. However, the fact we shouldn’t forget that in our day and age family is in so many ways divided from actually being a family; and that it would be much harder, especially in our western society, to get everyone, at the same time and same location at the same table.

      This is, and I think you would agree with me on that, for today’s world an (almost) impossible task. 

      I am not sure but I do believe that Morrnah Simeona must have thought of it herself and might have received “ancestral spiritual” guidance to do so. It also makes sense that we start with ourselves to initiate the change we also like to see in our world by changing first.

      To your question, I don’t really know what you mean by using hand signals. The Reiki practitioner (2nd Reiki Level) uses Reiki symbols but I really don’t know what you mean my using hand signals? If you like to elaborate on it a bit more I certainly would appreciate it. 🙂

      Thank you


  7. Hi Sylvia, I can only say “Wow”. I am so grateful for this explanation. I have heard of this practice of Ho’oponopono but repeating the phrases seemed so much of a hollow exercise to me that I never tried it much. I do agree that when I was taught that I am responsible for my experiences, it was a bit hard to swallow. I now agree because I have seen instances in which, things turned around because I took responsibility. This article also shows the valuable connection to reiki. Do you think I could also use the phrases to enhance my counseling work ? 

    1. Hi, JJ, ad thank you for leaving a comment.

      Yes, I too remember my first time reading about the practice of forgiveness, which Ho’oponopono is teaching, and I thought to myself what a big Whoop this must be.

      Well, I have forgiven myself for this hasty thought on the matter and as it has turned out Ho’oponopono is now a daily practice of mine. 

      I know when you are saying that the knowledge of being responsible for everything that is happening in your reality is a though one to swallow, but it makes more and more sense the longer you are practicing it because you will experience the changes, first inside of you than as well outside from you.

      To your question, of course, you can use Ho’oponopono for your counselling work as for everything there is in one person’s life. There is no limit at all.


  8. Pretty photos! Ho’oponopono is very interesting. Honestly I hadn’t heard a lot about Ho’oponopono until I came across your post here, so it is very helpful. Correction of any wrongdoing there is, I like that. Also I like the fact that Ho’oponopono is done within a family setting as this could be beneficial to many people out there. Anything that has been practiced for a thousand years has retained value. The 4 phrases are key. The simple act of politeness has sadly been reduced. Your story about your treatment of the cancer patient is truly inspirational. I will be checking out the books that you referenced here further, thank you!

    1. Thank you for your comment on the matter.

      It is, for some people almost inconceivable that something like saying these four phrases, so simple too, can make a huge difference in a person’s life. I personally, at first, was very resistant towards this method. Now, it has become a part of my daily life and it is so rewarding as well.


  9. This is amazing. If only we did more of this, the world would certainly be a better place. If everyone got together and sat and talked until everyone had their say and then forgiveness could and would take place! We are responsible for our lives and what we have thought or done. 

    The self-identity type is probably easier in our day at least where I live, as not many would be very open to this sort of thing. Do you ever help with these sorts of rituals? 

    How “useful” is the Ho’oponopono in therapy or life coaching?

    thanks and I look forward to your reply.

    1. Thank you, Karin, for your comment and the question.

      I help my clients to see the usefulness of repeating these four phrases and that they can make it their own ritual on a daily basis and fit it into their lives.

      Ho’oponopono is useful in every way and in every stage of our lives. 

      I use it in my Life coaching as well in my hands-on-sessions and so far I had quite the positive response.

      Although, as you have said in your comment that we are responsible what happens in our life and so far no one can force anyone to do something they don’t want to.

      This goes for Ho’oponopono as for any treatment done by a licences  health practitioner or therapist, if the person in question doesn’t like to change or being helped, then they won’t.

      Sad but also very true it’s called FREE WILL.

  10. Self-forgiveness and self-love, this is something everybody should try to do. There are so many problems that come with our own regrets and our low self-esteem.

    I have never practice Reiki, and that´s something I would love to do. I live in Mexico and I don´t think Reiki is common here, because I have never heard of it.

    Ho’oponopono seems to be a great technique to reach peace from within, we live in a world where stress is present everywhere, so I am going to follow your advice and I am going to say these four phrases every day. Do you recommend a specific time to do this technique?

    1. Thank you for your comment and I couldn’t agree more with you that stress is all around us and that we need to take care of ourselves otherwise no one else will do it.

      If you are interested to receive Reiki I suggest you look up your directory where you live in Mexico or check out the Internet you might be surprised how many Reiki practitioner might living near you.

      As far as practicing Ho’oponopono there are no time limits. You just do it as often as you like, like after waking up, before going to sleep, in the shower, on the toilet lol 🙂 You get the drift.

  11. I am a deeply religious person ,open to new ways of purifying self to aquire a state of peace with my God, myself and those around me. This practice of Ho’oponopono sounds like something that could help all of us deal with the turmoil within us without waiting for those we seem to have done wrong being involved, I like that I can deal with my self and change without blame shifting , definitely going to try this out. Thank you for this article, looking forward for more.

    1. Thank you Florence for your comment and your insight on the matter, appreciated.

      I certainly do agree that this practice does help to find peace in one selves and therefore will radiate peace into the “outside” world also promoting peace. 

      It may not happen overnight but, it will happen for sure. 🙂

  12. Thank you for a very interesting post.  I am totally unfamiliar with the subject, but am now intrigued. 

    My sister and brother-in-law just moved to Hawaii six months ago, and now this pops up in front of me–wow!!!  i am looking forward to investigating the subject and learning more, especially about the four phrases.

    Thank you again, and best wishes,


    1. Thanks, Joe for taking the time to leave a comment and I think so too that it might not be a coincident that you came along this article since your sister and her husband have moved to Hawaii. 🙂

      Sometimes we never know why things happen


  13. HI

    This is the first time that i am hearing of the process of Ho’oponpono, an Hawaiian cleansing prayer.  

    I know of a similar practice which is repentance and letting go and let God take over.

    I love learning about different cultures and traditions because the more I learn the more I realize that many cultures are very similar.

    Thank you for sharing this really interesting and educational article, I really appreciate what I have learned here.


    1. Thank you Jennifer for leaving a comment and I am glad that you have found my article helpful 🙂


  14. Hey thanks for explaining this Reiki process easy and friendly way. I want to do it right now to be honest. I have been struggling with lots of mental issues and want relief fast. I do not want to have medicines anymore. I would try this soon and make it part of my life.

    1. Thank you for your comment appreciated and yes, please try to use these 4 phrases they are easy and in time you might feel different by being more happier and so forth.

  15. I’ve heard of Reiki but have never practiced it myself. Thank you for going in detail about what Ho’oponopono actually is. As you can imagine, I have never heard of it and it’s a shame because it can definitely be useful. The traditional way of practicing is very powerful as it allows everyone involved in the issue to say his/her piece. However, I would enjoy more the individual form of practicing because like you said in your post, everything happens internally. How I react or feel about a certain situation is the cause of me, of how I perceive it. So naturally, I would have to do some soul searching to get to the root of it all. 

    1. Thanks, Victor for taking the time and leaving a comment, appreciated.

      And I also value when you saying that you have to do some soul searching because this is exactly what can help us to understand why we react to certain situation the way we do and, that we can change it if we feel it is the right thing to do.

  16. Hi Sylvia

    I am a pharmacist by profession and I got to tell you that I enjoyed reading this article.I am one who believes very strongly in the Complementary Health professions, and I have gone for Reiki sessions.

    To tell you the truth, I have tinnitus(ringing in the ears), and that is one of the main reasons that I started going for Reiki. I am not sure if my Reiki master is aware of the principles of Ho’oponopono, but I am going to direct her to your site.

    I do believe that my tinnitus is a manifestation of something that is wrong from within. I love the 4 fundamentals of Ho’oponopono, and understand that it may take time to get used to. However, I am willing to try everything that I can.

    Can you offer me any other suggestions?

    Thanks and Take Care


    1. Thank you for the comment and your question.

      First, I think you are in right hands with receiving Reiki and my suggestion is that you keep receiving it.

      I, myself, had a client with the same condition and it took her a couple of years to reduce the ear ringing to less than half as it was in the beginning. I also have to add, that when she came to me she already suffered from tinnitus for over 10 years.

      So, keep going 🙂

      Another suggestion to your question I like to give is to find the root cause of the tinnitus. Try to remember what was going on at this section of your life?

      According to the author, Louise Hay, in her book: “You can heal your life”, tinnitus equals to refuse to listen as well not listening to one’s inner voice, stubbornness.

      Whatever you may find in reflecting upon, don’t judge yourself, let it go and try to use these four phrases.

      If you like keep me posted 🙂

  17. Hello there. Hope you are having a good time. Thank you for sharing this information which shows us how to integrate the Process of Ho’oponopono with Reiki. Never come across any stuff as such before now. This is so educational. Let us make things right using this process. Lol. Looks silly tho. I enjoyed reading through.

    1. Thanks you for the comment and yes, it looks a bit silly in the beginning but trust me when I say that it really works.

  18. First off, I’m not even going to try to pronounce that word out loud haha!

    Its always fun to learn about different cultures and how different they are from our own.

    I like the 4 phrases of the word, theyre simple yet can have some really good effects when used properly and sympathetically.

    1. Ty, your are not alone when it comes to pronunciation of Ho’oponopono but overtime it got easier.

      Just use the 4 phrases, have no expectation either and see what’s happening.

  19. I’ve alway wondered about Ho’oponopono. I’ve heard of it before but I didn’t really know what it was all about. I thought the four phrases of Ho’oponopono were interesting because when I used to go to meditation class, there was a particular class where we would say those phrases over and over in our heads while meditating. i guess i know where it came from now! 🙂

    I love your story about the woman who had a total hysterectomy and was still in pain. I love that you used this Ho’oponopono technique with the Reiki healing and she felt better after a few sessions. I can see that this is something truly healing. A healing that comes from within! 

    1. Thank you, Christina for taking the time to leave a comment appreciated.

      Yes, I do believe it too that what you have experienced in your meditation class that it was from Ho’oponopono.

      I really can say that it is wonderful and it does work to release all the negativity we have inside of us, just don’t expect how and when. 🙂

  20. Hi there,

    I love practicing this Hawaiian Forgiveness prayer. It is easy and, in my opinion, also very powerful.
    I have read Joe Vitale’s book Zero Limits and it is fantastic. 🙂

    Love your article, thanks for sharing


    1. Thank you, Tina, for leaving a comment and I am happy that you too, like myself, have found this forgiveness prayer helpful.
      It is giving the person, who is practicing it, more than just peace of mind it will help also to change one’s attitude toward things in life.

  21. Thank you for this wonderful article on Ho’oponopono which I never heard of.
    It makes me curious to learn more about it and I also appreciate the books you have recommended to read.
    However, I like to know if there are courses where I can also learn more about this technique?
    Thanks you

    1. Hi Debbie,

      Thanks for your time and leaving a comment and for your question, appreciated.

      Yes, there are different courses available, although, I personally have not attended any of them.

      However, if you google those to names, Joe Vitale and Mabel Katz, you will find more information on their courses they do provide.

      I hope this was helpful to you?

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